The Bottom Line

Are you confident in whom you are?  Do you feel good about yourself? Do you consider your strengths and give yourself credit for them? Do you stand your ground? Are you capable?

These are all questions we need to ask ourselves.  Answering these questions honestly can be difficult for some.  The answers should be unequivocally YES!  When we are feeling inadequate or inferior there is usually a cause for it.  The only real cause is that we are allowing someone to have that control over us by internalizing these feelings, which in turn give them validity.

We all have people in our lives that seem to push our buttons or rub us the wrong way.  It may seem like their mission in life is to make us feel inferior, useless, powerless and even angry.  The truth is we have the option of how we will let others affect us.  It’s a matter of not giving them any control over us.  We all react with certain feelings which are very normal.  What we must avoid is allowing those feelings to penetrate our identity.  

Tigers and Bees

This is very interesting... 

I just realized a bee and a tiger have similar markings. If though, you ever find yourself face-to-face with a tiger, how likely is it that you would notice a bee buzzing by? And really how could you ever confuse the two? Unless, perhaps, you were looking through a telescope. Maybe then a bee might resemble a tiger?? 

Please excuse this post.. it's been a long day and I'm rambling... and there are far too many bees in my garden!!! I'm so thankful they aren't Tigers... 

~DebTim~ 

The Power in Quotes

We all hear quotes pretty much daily.  In fact there are quotes for everything you could possibly think of.   I personally am a lover of quotes.  Quotes are simply - a phrase or passage repeated, usually from a source of authority illustrating something.  Through quotes we can learn, laugh, find peace, find validation and most importantly apply them to our very lives.

I find quotes can pick me up when I’m feeling defeated or down.  They have the power to change my mood and realize I am not so alone in how I am feeling.  Through quotes you will soon find that there is always someone out there who has walked the same path as you, how you are feeling, or what you are going through and were just able to put it into eloquent words giving your situation and feelings validity.

Making Decisions

Why, when our instincts are so strong, do we sometimes make choices we later regret? Here are some reasons.... 

Sometimes, we need to make mistakes so we can learn from them. It may be the best way to learn how to get it right the next time. Or it maybe because we worry about things, that we shouldn't allow to bother us. Maybe we grow so concerned that we end up acting on what we think instead of listening to what we feel. We might be upset and not thinking clearly enough to be making decisions Clearly being under the influence of a drug or alcohol would affect our decision making. 

Making decisions out of fear or trauma can also lead to regrets. Out of desperation or the influence of others can also be reasons we make bad decisions. It all seems to come right back to our emotions. 

Strength in Vulnerability

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable sounds scary – some may even equate being vulnerable to being weak. Some fear showing they are vulnerable, opens them up for others to take advantage of them. In fact vulnerability is quite the opposite in that it is a powerful form of strength that breeds love. 

What started this pretense of showing everyone we are fine when we are not? You may be crumbling inside but society has taught us to keep that mask in place projecting a tough exterior, having control over our lives and protecting that almighty self image we have created. 

It’s natural for us to protect ourselves from possible hurt. Often subconsciously we build walls around us believing this to keep us safe from harm, unfortunately it often causes us more suffering. In this defense we are building around ourselves we are shutting out the world of love and trust. We miss out on so many blessing in life by closing ourselves off to change, opportunities, even love in relationships. 

Amazing Us

We are such strange creatures aren’t we? The people we care about most are the ones that annoy us the most. Does that make sense? Not really huh? You would think we should care more about the ones that don’t affect us so deeply. It certainly would be easier on us. 

Why do the things that we care about most have the ability to frustrate us the most too? Well it’s because we care that this happens. If we didn’t love as deeply as we do we wouldn’t care so much either. Everything is connected in some absurd way. If we didn’t care about things we would never hurt, not emotionally anyway. 

Taking it one step further, if we didn’t experience these hurts we wouldn’t be forced to think. If we didn’t have a need to think about how things affect us – life wouldn’t really mean much. We each have different levels of sensitivity. Yes girls, even men have levels of sensitivity. They are just a wee bit better at hiding their feelings then we are for the most part.